What do you want your child to be?
There is no one way to raise a child. Each child is unique and can vary in so many ways in abilities and behaviour from others in their group. Ramgopal Vallath, indebted to his own parents for an upbringing that has helped him overcome great challenges and difficulties, set out to meet numerous parents to work out some common guidelines that could help groom a child. This book is the result. As with his previous bestselling book, From Ouch to Oops, this too is bound to reach out and move its readers, and leave lessons of lasting use in what is one of the most important tasks a parent undertakes: raising a child to be a healthy, resilient, positive adult.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Ramgopal Vallath, better known as RamG Vallath, is an IITian, a tech company co-founder, a much sought-after motivational speaker and the author of the best-selling autobiography From Ouch to Oops. He has inspired over 50,000 children with his talks and his life story is a chapter in one of the eighth-class textbooks for CBSE students. As a keynote speaker, RamG has addressed over one lakh people across the globe and helped them become more resilient, more positive, happier and more successful.
Parenting being one of the niches I blog about doesn’t mean I know A-Z of everything that relates to parenting. I’m sure that the author would also agree to this. Because for us parents, each day is a learning and there is a lesson to look back, introspect and gain something from what happens each day.
This learning I would say wouldn’t always be something that I would smile and be proud of because there are days that would kill you with guilt and self-doubt. What I write might work for 9/10 kids but not one. Why? Because each child is different and they need a different way to handle and to be taken care of.
Being a mom of two I can confidently say that I’m not using the same way of parenting to my younger son in comparison to how I raised my daughter. A matter of three years and boom there is a lot of changes in how children react or what they expect. What do I do? Continue to do what I knew? No, I find new ways to see what suits better for me and son.
This is exactly what the Author conveys in the book. Not every child fall into the same group. The book showcase techniques to approach and values to be instilled in children. The best gift that I’d say we can give our children would be values that are to be taught which would help them at any point in their life.
Though I spent very little time with my Grandparents, there are specific nuances that I learnt or should I say life lessons to how to deal or how to decide now. I can even use them at a later point of time in my life. These I’d say are the values that are passed on. They cannot be outdated. People just come up with new ways to instil the values that we know of earlier. I don’t think there is anything wrong because in the end the value is taught.
As I read through, I saw myself at few places
“That is what great parents do-they live on for centuries after their physical selves depart, through the thoughts and values that they have bequeathed to their children. Their influence is boundless across generations”. As I mentioned above, I’m grateful for the very little time that I spent for lifetime of knowledge.
Befriend but with firm boundaries – The less you say no, the more free-spirited your kids will be.
Telling by showing- The values children display are often a reflection of the values that parents demonstrate.
The real-life experiences that the author has shared from his and his circle of friends will definitely make you nod your head, or smile or at least question yourself like’ isn’t that me?’ Only when you know examples from real life it makes it much clearer to understand what is being conveyed or what must be observed and taken as a lesson.
Just mentioning that these are techniques, these are values are only going to be giving you a theory which would land you in a dilemma. But here the author makes it easier for you.
The key points section at the end of each chapter is a bonus. With a 200+ page book, the author will definitely lead you to the right direction when it comes to parenting. The language used is simple and much easier to comprehend.
Takeaways in bullets about what you can expect after reading the book
SHARP technique that proves effective parenting.
5 approaches to look in parenting
Fundamental principles children should be taught
Values to be instilled in children
I’d definitely recommend this book as a gift we parents can get ourselves and also to fellow parents.
9 Replies to “Review of Active parenting”
Loved the way you have reviewed this book .. Must buy for parents especially new parents There is no right or wrong way to raise a child. Each child is unique and can differ from others in their group in terms of abilities and behaviour in a variety of ways. Children have distinct fortes and work at their speed.
– Anjali Tripathi
That seems a go to book. Any teachings or suggestions when come from personal experience are easy to adapt. They don’t sound bookish. I second your thoughts that parents have to make changes in their handling styles even with kids with less age difference.
I will look for his talks for my daughter and will get a copy of his book for myself 😊
I had heard a lot about this book before too. and your review has made me more curious too. yes, agree each child is unique and we can not keep same approach even for siblings too. will surly check out this book to know more about it.
I feel parenting is parenting. Either you are there or you are not there for your child. This terminology of active parenting and passive parenting is way beyond my imagination. From your review, this book looks like a good read. Will check it out.
I agree as every child is unique so do the dealing techniques with them. Parenthood is a blessing and can be enjoyable if you know how to deal with different situations. We learn from our experience but having a handy guide like this always helps.
This book seems very helpful for parents. When tips come from experienced person , it’s always the best to learn.
This seems like a good book for all the new mothers. I do not have kids but I have friends who have small babies, will suggest this book to them. Thanks for this detailed review.
Parenting is such a diverse ocean that the more we read about it the more is left to be still fathomed. will surely check out this book buddy.
I have never really thought about the concept of active parenting. This book is a pointer to the possibilities that we can try when it comes to parenting