Who is a feminist? #writebravely #celebratewritetribe

A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men. – Gloria Steinem

I happen to come across this the first time. This made me search about Gloria Steinem and my, my what brilliant quotes she came up with. Each has an inner meaning and an underlying truth. Most of it contains truth about being a feminist. So, I thought why not pick up few that would influence me to be a better woman. I will list them out in the order I liked them.

A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.

This conveys the logic that the fish lives happily without the bicycle so in the same analogy a woman can also live well without a man.

A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.

Anyone who believes in equality of both sex and trusts that both have equal right and opportunities in all fields can be deemed to be a feminist.

“I believe that change comes from the bottom, not the top.”.

We cannot expect a change to happen from the top of the pyramid. Only when it starts from the bottom, it can be set right on the top.

‪”Self-esteem isn’t everything; it’s just that there’s nothing without it.”

This statement is self- explainable. If you see there is nothing more than self-respect, we have. But she also deems that it isn’t everything.

‪”So whatever you want to do, just do it…Making a damn fool of yourself is absolutely essential.”

The above statement says that we can do all it takes just to accomplish what we want, so making a fool of our self is essential. Why don’t we go that extra mile to achieve our goal and why bother if the world thinks you are a fool.

‪”We need to remember across generations that there is as much to learn as there is to teach.”

We all think of teaching our kids, what we learnt from our ancestors, but we fail to realize that the reverse is also important. We have so much to learn from them compared to what we would want to let them know.

‪”Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all is a form of planning.”

We fail to understand that dreaming would help us plan, think out of box by imagining. This does give us a number of possibilities. But we generally don’t do it.

‪”If the shoe doesn’t fit, must we change the foot?”

Yes, that’s true. If it doesn’t fit, we should be looking for another shoe and not think about changing the foot. As this is normally put, when things don’t work by the plan, try changing the plan and not what we are trying to achieve.

“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.”

This is absolutely bang on. We also look for the right person who should match the qualities we are looking for. Instead we fail to notice if we in the first place are equally good.

“The art of life is not controlling what happens to us, but using what happens to us.”

This is a gem. We should try to learn from what life gives us, instead sitting all day to set things right for a perfect day. Every experience is a learning. We have no control upon an extent to what life is holding for us, but what actually happens can give us a valuable lesson and we can make use of it.

Every statement of Gloria does leave us thinking. I loved all of the above. I hope that would influence me to be a better person and I hope that you would benefit too.

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What does the pea pod say ? #writebravely #celebratewritetribe

Let me just jot down what all comes to my mind seeing the picture of pea pod.

The simile two peas in pod is often used to describe two people who are virtually indistinguishable. But is that possible. We do see that children from the same mother or siblings in fact have sharp district traits and aren’t similar. But this simile still does seem to be used.

The peas in the pea pod looks like feelings inside us. The moment you tear it; the feelings ooze out like the peas from the pod.

The pod symbolizes protection that it offers the peas inside right from very they were teeny tiny and now when they are mature pearls.

Even though the peas inside the pod looks really tender and fresh the pod that protects it is strong. This can be taken as a comparison that even though we humans are tender inside, we should not show off to the outside world, we should be strong enough to face anything and everything.

Pea pod can be compared to the mother having her child in womb, the pea pod protects, nourishes, gives enough sunlight and dampness that is apt for the pea pods. That wonder of nature is so beautifully created by God.

Let us learn what the small tiny creation of nature is trying to tell us.

I am also reminded of the story of princess and the pea.

It goes about like this..

Wherein when the queen wants to know if the girl really does suit her prince. She place a pea pod inside the mattress of the girl before she sleeps. Throughout the night the girl twists and turns trying to sleep but she couldn’t. In the morning when the queen asks her, she says she slept peacefully like a baby. The queen comes to know she could never get a girl even more suitable for her prince and is happy to get her married and they lived happily ever after.

SO here the pea pod plays an important part is testing the qualities of the girl. So isn’t this tiny creation playing an important role.

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Nurture is to take care of #writebravely #celebratewritetribe

Nurturing is to take care of, feed and protect so a person when referred as a nurturing person is someone who is protective and caring.

A relationship cannot survive by itself. Only when two people take care and nurture and give to each other in a way, there is a mutually favourable connection that helps in sustaining the relationship.

What are the ways you can nurture your relationship?

Loving, honest and frequent communication– Talk it out I say but with love and honesty.

The inclination to work through hitches and differences. -Try to learn to face the discomfort that comes with opinions that differ.

Thinking out of box together – The desire to do something new, step out of comfort zone by both of you, makes you build a stronger bond.

Sense of humour and a diversion from routine – Don’t just keep saying that you are working on relationship, take time out have fun.

Compliments and emotional support– Keep that trust factor on, if you get a feel that he doesn’t like or respect, the connection is gone forever. Lift up each other when the other person is down.

Love, romance, and sex- These are the foundations of a loving relationship. You can always rekindle the spark, if you know how. Do it and keep it going.

Sharing a common goal – That journey of working together towards a goal is always that we should be looking forward to, so that we pursue it together.

Admit, forgive and forget– To err is human. We all screw up. Trying to understand and let go of the mistakes the partner make swill make life even more joyful.

Share what you learnt with your better half. – You learn something new or a truth that you discover about life, make sure you share it with him. It does bring you a positive response.

Gestures that make HIM happy and also nurture your bond

  1. Compliment him in front of other.
  2. Food is the way to a man’s heart so get started.
  3. Be quick to apologize.
  4. Give him some man time.
  5. Plan a day for only the two of you.
  6. Say that he is handsome often.
  7. Get him the gift that he really wants.
  8. Put yourself first.
  9. Take time to invest and save money
  10. Write out a letter to him.
  11. Kiss him often.
  12. Learn about his hobby and get yourself involved.
  13. Initiate sex more, be romantic and playful as well.
  14. Appreciate him when he does something good.
  15. Go to him for advice and follow it.
  16. 15 minutes of talking daily. Only the two of you.

One more thing I would add is to have a meal once a day together. Take time to serve each other, enjoy the food and feel loved.

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Forgive and forget #writebravely#celebratewritetribe

To err is human, to forgive is divine.

We have all heard this phrase quite often making rounds. But what does it intend to convey really. We all know it is human nature to commit mistakes. I’m just talking about the minor one’s here. All human cannot be 100% right all the time. They might say I never make a mistake, I always think and act. But that cannot be possible all the time because we do know that one more saying ‘Great homer sometimes nods’ means an accomplished writer such as Homer could also make mistakes. There is nothing wrong when you realize and confess that you made a mistake.

Forgiveness is often compared to being divine. This is put forth in Tamil (my mother tongue) in another way which is more or less similar. Someone who makes mistakes is human and that someone who forgives the mistake done is above human. Such high is the quality of forgiveness given a place in the world we live in. Forgiveness shall not be given for namesake and later being subjected to repeated recap episodes of the error committed. When someone confesses their mistake that it is an unknown error, we could empathize their situation or understand what made them commit the mistake and forgive. But this is only for errors that could be forgiven and not any major blunder or something that is done of major negligence.

For instance, a doctor cannot perform an error while operating a patient. The full concentration should be only on the surgery, leave out whatever personal problem they might be going through, the doctors should be diligent in the duty conferred on them. They cannot seek forgiveness since the mistake is purely medical negligence. Since forgiveness is compared to divinity not all errors could be forgiven, there is clear cut boundary us humans should draw as to what could be forgiven and what cannot be.

Being selfish and keeping ego in mind we shouldn’t make decisions and let the person who seeks forgiveness suffer. After all we are humans, so the quality of love in soul would creep out from the hiding place that is deep down inside us. It was better said by Zora Neale Hurston,

“Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.”

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