Happy Monday folks .. Today we look at the list of traits we teach in the fifth alphabet E and what not to teach.
What to teach?
Earnest – Being an Ernest person would mean your sincere about what you choose to do. The actions that come from them are sincere and would definitely mean that they mean serious business. This cannot be confused with honesty wherein that means being truthful.
Easy going – Bring up your toddler as someone who is relaxed and doesn’t get stressed easily. They should be taught to control temper , be calm and take things in a flow. It’s a desirable quality and a person with such a trait is always happy with what they have.
Ebullient – A person is termed this way when he / she bubbles with energy or enthusiasm. Such a person is so very cheerful that they’re always welcome as company.
Empathetic – Bring them up as someone whose is empathetic and can understand the feelings of other human beings. Empathy is not something that is inborn it has to be taught. This is a very crucial trait to decide if you’re a good person.
Extrovert – A social outgoing person or somebody who is full of energy when surrounded by people is termed an extrovert. Extroverts can adapt easily in new environments since they have an upper hand when it comes to socializing.
What not to teach
Egocentric – Could also be termed as self centered. Such a personality has no regard to others feelings and is only concerned about self. Such a person always has a belief that they would be the center of attention. It normally comes out as acts of selfishness, lack of sympathy towards others.
Emotionalist – a person who gives most importance to feelings and emotions rather than reasoning. Such a person would never agree to logical thinking upon arriving to solutions but would rather think more about the emotional consequences.
Envious – Would mean a discontent in not having what others have or they could do. It causes unhappiness and makes you feel inferior.
Exaggerator – A person who tends to blow incidents out of proportions. They usually have the tendency of describing events more than what actually had occurred.
Exhibitionist – A personality who tends toward steal attention by behaving in a certain way even it may seem silly. The person with this trait normally is know to boast of their abilities.
The third alphabet usually taught as c for cat, cake or cup for the kid. For us we would teach them to be cheerful, compassionate, confident, courageous and charismatic. What should we not teach would be cunning, choosey and childish.
What to teach
Cheerful – Being cheerful would mean being chirpy energetic. Somebody who brings joy and happiness would always be welcomed to any surrounding or gathering. Such a person is always someone who everybody looks forward to .
Compassionate – Would mean someone who would empathize and be kind to others. A child should learn to think before they act and know the possibility if their actions would hurt someone. The child should be kind to all. A compassionate person is someone who could alleviate somebody else’s stress. If you want to lead a happy life or your child to lead a happy life teach them to be compassionate.
Confident – Being confident means being firm and absolutely right about what one wants to do. Being confident can make a kid sure of their abilities and their views and perceptions.
Courageous – Courage does not attribute only to physical bravery. It makes a person stand up against all odds without any fear. Nobody is born courageous it take practice.
Charismatic – A person who is charismatic helps others that feel the confidence in addition to the self. They bubble with confidence and that’s something that’s not egoistic.
What not to teach
Cunning – A person who is cunning is clever but usually unacceptable since the way of approach was dishonest. The person is very much capable of manipulating others thoughts to get what they want.
Choosey – A kid should be taught to accept whatever he /she gets and not be choosey for each and every thing offered. This in other words is easier if the kid is able to adapt well to what they are being offered.
Childish Being childish means immature and ignorant act. Crying to achieve what they want, blaming others are some of the actions a childish person does. We must teach them not to cry over small things.
So you now know what to and what not to teach in C. See you tomorrow for D.
B – The second in the alphabets which has traits like bold, bright , busy.
What to teach
Bold – Being bold is having the ability to say and exhibit without having fear. The child has to be taught to be bold enough to voice out what they feel. This could be taught in a way that they don’t sound harsh. The term is like to use here is bodacious which is bold and audacious in unison. If the child doesn’t like to do something or say something the child should voice it out rather than doing it just for the sake of being told. If that would be wrong we could always jump in and weigh in the reasoning from the child’s point of view.
Busy – Being busy is keeping themselves occupied. The child could either read a book, play with a toy . The child needn’t be let idle . It’s always better to keep them occupied with some activity on their own or involve them with us.
Bright – Being bright is the quick intuitive thinking that the child can be taught to cultivate. Rather than depending on someone to be instructed on what needs to be done, the child could bring out what he/she has an idea of action. This could be something that we could accept or put into action or something that needs minute corrections. But that spontaneous thinking of coming up with the idea or thoughts is what we should make them capable of.
What not to teach
Boisterous – Boisterous means being noisy. A child should always be made to talk in a polite tone no matter what. We’ve seen in adults people often raising voices just to prove what they say is right. Something wrong is wrong no matter in what higher tone you put that in. So it is always better to train them to be soft spoken at home which would help them at a later stage.
Belligerent – This is often a term used when someone is highly argumentative. The child could always ask for a reason but cannot pick up an argument with each and everything. If you find this earlier this should be corrected.
The letter A has a lot of qualities that describe a person say affectionate , adaptable, attentive, agreeable and so on. A also has anger , annoying and arrogance which we should also teach them how.it would sound and how people with those qualities are often not preferred.
What to teach
Affectionate – Affection is often termed as physical expression of feeling. Most oftenly this particular quality is most evident and is clearly seen when showering love to infants. This affection often is directly proportional to the development we see in infants. More of affection sure is to help them grow in a loving environment. Also helps in their well being. When being shown affection, they also learn that it is good too be affectionate towards fellow beings.
Adaptable – Being adaptable is the adjusting nature of the individual. Bringing up the toddler in a way that they are capable of adjusting be it the place or the facilities available is a great trait. Kids these days should have this trait that makes it easier for them to survive when they have to experience change in what they are usually exposed to.
Attentive – Being attentive makes shrewd and aware of what is happening. Attention to details is even more better. This would make them be alert in all situations.
Agreeable – Being agreeable means the ability to be pleasing. It can also be taken that the child is pleasant to accepting changes or decisions.
What not to teach
Anger – one such quality where a person looses temper and erupts. This has to be corrected during initial stages for the child. The child when doesn’t agree to certain things needs to be explained patiently rather than having to say that they are angry.
Annoying- Annoying behaviour is termed as certain verbal or physical expression that isn’t liked or doesn’t seem to be pleasant. A child cannot be allowed to do something verbally or physically that causes displeasure to others.
Arrogance – Being arrogant is being firm in what they stand though they’re aware that it isn’t fair. The child should be able decide or deduce what is right and what is wrong at least at their level of maturity and agree to it rather than standing to support something that is not right.
The above said could be taught at various stages and not at one shot. It takes time.
Bringing up a child involves a lot of effort not only from the parents but also the people whom the child interacts during early years.
I’m still in the phase of bringing up my toddler step by step but life did have other plans that destiny wants me to refine the tuning i did in bringing up baby number one. Yes I’m expecting baby number two in the next few days and I hope I get to complete this challenge as well.
Coming to what I was initially writing yes bringing up the toddler is not always an easy task that just requires you to read out from a manual and do as it says.
What works for someone might not work for you. But the qualities or traits you wish to imbibe in them can be done if bring practiced from the very beginning.
The same goes with my posts as well. I’m not going to be writing about how you bring up kids and what to do. Rather, I’d just list out the qualities or traits that we could wish to cultivate in them and if they do, you’d be satisfied and take a comfortable seat watching them grow up and handle the challenges and situations life throws at them.
I’d be writing about the qualities in each alphabet and their benefits on how it would help mould them.