The invisible load of Breastfeeding mom

Breastfeeding mom

When a baby is born, the mother is also born. The anxiety, stress, tiredness from delivery still takes days for her to settle down. But is she prepared for the invisible load.

No matter how much a mom is prepared for her journey post delivery, she still undergoes a lot of things unsaid and her mind is always preoccupied.

Being a new mom myself let me list them out.

Being the only one who can feed

Yes, if you are an exclusive breast feeding mom, you’re the child’s only source of food. Your duty cannot be passed on or taken over by someone else.

But if you would want your milk to be fed to your baby , you could pump, you at least have that exclusion. No, that needn’t make you feel guilty.

Staying hydrated

Yes, staying hydrated is part of your new mom schedule. You need to keep yourself hydrated in order to make milk that would suffice your baby’s hunger. Yes load yourself with water, flavoured , unflavoured, juice, buttermilk, milkshakes but limited caffeine. Definitely no alcohol.

Leaking milk and blocked duct

This definitely needs to be said. Milk leaking on your favourite shirt ,dress. You ain’t going without your breast pads on. The blocked duct and don’t forget to mention the pain that it offers you. Oh my god, nobody told me that if you make excess you’re going to suffer. So make sure your baby empties your breast it you at least pump the milk out to save yourself from pain that the engorgement gives you.

Feeling tired of being touched

With constant feeding, hugging and cuddling though it does have a lot of positive effects like the absolute delightful bond between mom and child, increased milk production, at times you just feel tired and don’t want to be touched. Especially if you’re co-sleeping or during the growth spurts when you cluster feed at times you get too tired and drained out especially the breasts.

Worry they’re getting enough

That mom guilt you get whether you’re making enough for your child. The constant thoughts that your mind keeps getting whether the child is full. You touch their stomach, see if they burped and are sleeping well. It’s an age old quotient they say, well fed baby sleeps well. Those were people who didn’t know about growth spurts, regression, colic and so on.

You’re Cinderella clock is only 2-3 hours

Yes, your baby needs you so you definitely aren’t getting away anywhere for more than a maximum of three hours. They want you to cuddle them , hold them and feel you so you better get back earlier.

Pumping and labelling

Did I tell you the hack that even if you’re the only source of nutrition you could excuse yourselves by pumping. I forgot to mention that pumping has its own accompaniments too. Yes labelling the pumped milk and storing them. The different temperatures to store and the time period they can be stored to be used. So now your refrigerator has extra compartmental spaces for your milk so keep out those squashes, cakes , juices and pizza out.

Adjusting caffeine alcohol and diet

I did mention while talking about being hydrated that caffeine has to be taken in moderation. If you’re someone who could survive without caffeine I’d clap my hands or if you’re someone like me who needs a dose of it everyday, make sure you get it before evening. A strict no to alcohol, but if you’re too addicted make sure you don’t feed the baby at least for 6-8 hours.

Diet is yet another aspect where you got to make adjustments and compromises. Yes , the postpartum diet is healthy and makes you put on a lot of weight. They say feed the mother well so the baby gets enough so in the process you tend to put on those extra kilos. Learning to say no or not to get tempted seeing your favourite foods which aren’t part of postpartum diet. Though they say the food taken by the mother doesn’t affect the baby, it all depends on the baby in the end.

Being the one waken up for night feeds

The night feeds especially the ones immediately post delivery the next one to four weeks are tiring and makes you lose sleep. Again you’re the only source you will have to wake up when your baby needs milk. But if you’re someone who doesn’t want to look at your husband whose happily sleeping like a baby, I’d say you pump and make him feed or make him get you some midnight snacks you could munch on.

Limited dress options

Did I tell you that you have limited dressing options too. Don’t let your eyeballs bulge out. The need to nurse makes you have only very little options for wardrobe and don’t forget that the boobs need to be secured well inorder to not sag and most importantly not to reveal when they leak. Not to forget those elderly advices hide your breasts you’re a feeding mom, people might look at you.

When to wean advices

The most important or needed purchases post your delivery is good pair of airports or headphones. You might need them for a longer period until you decide to wean your child upon your own will. Untill then the advices keep pouring in stating reasons like milk isn’t enough or the baby is growing and needs solids. Happily plug in your ears and listen to some soothing music or watch your favourite series and don’t give a heed. You’re the mother and who exactly know when to start solids for your child. Until then keep calm and offer your breasts happily.

Responsibility of the weight

As long the baby is breastfed the weight factor depends completely on you. You take full responsibility if the baby is gaining or no. Here’s one other reason for moms to stress on. But let me say as long as your baby is happy and active don’t get the number get into your mind. Your baby needn’t be plump when compared to others nor is going for a weight lifting competition for you to worry about.

So let me tell you though these are invisible loads keep yourself calm and composed you can do it. Keep telling yourself that you’re a good mother and doing the best for your child. That’s the mantra to keep yourself going.

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Staying positive when you’re pregnant during Covid19 times

Staying positive when you’re pregnant

Pregnancy is a great period and one of the most looking forward moments in a woman’s life. Though there are a lot of stressful moments , the anxiety and happiness to welcome a new human being she created sure does bring in a lot of excitement.

Being pregnant in covid19 times

But coming to our current situation of the global pandemic #covid19 and the continuous lockdowns that are imposed I came to know that a lot of women went into stress and depression.

✔️Keep your mind open for changes happening around. With lockdown in place new rules are made every minute so don’t keep your mind rigid. Be open to changes.

Think happy be happy. St

✔️Stay calm and all this is just temporary and will be alright in a few days. The changes happening around are just for few days. Things would be back to normal in few days. Focus on your baby and keeping yourself stress free.

✔️Keep tracking baby growth with apps like @oviahealth @babycenter. Tracking baby growth is of utmost importance, the current situation shouldn’t hinder you from doing it in regular basis. Know your baby well. We now have a lot of applications on phone to help us with it.

✔️Make sure you don’t miss your doctor appointments or scans. Lockdown is not a reason to skip appointments or scans. Even if your hospital isn’t accepting patients, there are a lot of maternity speciality or childcare hospitals which are working in full swing to help pregnant women at this pandemic times.

✔️Don’t miss out on your walks or light workouts. The terrace or the car parking could be a great place to walk. A mild workout is necessary during this time. Most commonly people can opt for walking as it’s less strenuous and also aids good physical activity.

✔️Make meals that is favourite to you and your family. This is a great time to start experimenting new cuisines . With no time restrictions to pack lunches for kids and family, you’re at your ease to try out those new dishes , videos of which you had saved long back.

✔️ Set up a candle light dinner with your partner, while the toddler can spend time with grandparents. Who said you can’t go on date nights when you’re pregnant. Going out could be risky during this time but a good dinner at home cooked by both of you together sure does rekindle the spark and gets the libido working.

✔️ Pretend play a sleepover with your toddler. Toddlers are great mood changers. One smile from them or a tiny action sure does light up our minds. Especially if you take part in their pretend plays, it makes our mind relaxed and also makes them happy. You can also read about various activities to do along with them . Read on activities to do with toddlers to know more. The kids could also be a little out of routine, due to lockdown me staying home; which could make them cranky at times. Moreover the new arrival taking the attention would be playing a part in their mood swings. Speak to your partner on how you could handle it. You could also read along how to handle work and make time for them here.

✔️ Don’t get upset if things don’t go as you planned. It’s okay that sometimes things don’t go as per plan. Think of plan B. Divert yourself and don’t keep brooding about what didn’t happen. Just think there is a better way to handle right in front of you. Getting upset or depressed sure will affect your baby too.

✔️Divert yourself into something more interesting like sewing, crochet , doodling or listening to some peaceful music. Picking up a new hobby is always fun. But when you are doing something for the little one inside it doubles the joy and satisfaction.

✔️Devote time to reading good books that boost positivity. Parenting books provide great knowledge at this time. You could also read about how to handle your labor in a relaxed manner. There a lot of books that help how to lead a happy life like IKIGAI.

✔️Talk to your baby in the womb. That is much more comforting. Babies start responding to the mothers voice sooner. It could be in the form of kicks. Start talking to him/her , trust me this will have greater benefits once they’re out.

✔️Self care is much needed and you don’t get better time to do it than to maintain and enhance that pregnancy glow. Get all the scrubs and face masks that are hiding in your closet and waiting to be used. Get going girl,it’s time to bring out that glow. I had a lot of time to try out products and my most favourite and a great recommendation for Ayurvedic products are here. You could take a look and invest , I’m sure you won’t regret buying.

✔️ Maintain a pregnancy journal of start writing posts on to a blog. Document what you feel. If you’re well informed of health sciences during pregnancy you could write on that. This would help fellow women who are pregnant. If you need help on how to start a blog you can read on. How to start a blog.

✔️Most importantly step out for some fresh air and breathe. Fresh air is all we need to keep our mind relaxed it also helps you in bringing in a lot of positivity.

On another note I came across a wonderful technique that my friend had shared, an idea about a gratitude bubble and being grateful and thankful at the end of day for things that we would like to make a note. Do read about it here. I’m sure this would be a great way for positivity too.

The points that are documented above are based on my experience as a pregnant mom during #covid19. I know that many of you or people whom you may know might feel the same. Do share this with them and make them stay positive. We can get through this sooner.

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Related read : Improving child immunity during Covid19.

Ten Breastfeeding Myths Busted

Soon after a woman delivers , advices start pouring in from all directions. Starting with healing from delivery, Breastfeeding, taking care of baby, postpartum care and what not. Most often they are centered around some age old myths that have been in place. Let’s take a look at the top ten myths relating to Breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding myths busted.

1 Do not nurse when you’re sick.

Our bodies produce antibodies when we’re sick. When we continue to breastfeed babies, the antibodies we produce to fight against sickness gets transmitted to the babies and helps in raising the immunity levels in them. During these times where covid19 is at its peak of spreading, breastfeeding is a great way to protect babies. WHO has also issued guidelines that a mother who is covid positive can continue breastfeeding her baby and this is in a way much better to protect the baby against infections.

2. Small breasts do not produce enough milk.


Size of breasts doesn’t decide the amount of milk. Every woman has the ability to produce breastmilk for her baby. So the size of the breasts be it big or small doesn’t decide the quantity that would be produced.

3 Prepare your breasts and nipples by toughening them for Breastfeeding.


Nipple stimulation can induce labour, just gently massage them and they would do their job. In olden days ghee was used to massage the breast and nipples. Though this is a tradition that is being followed even now , sometimes could lead to preterm labor.

4 . Clean your nipples before every feed.


This is much important for bottle feed. This was a precaution cause impure nipples can lead to bacterial formation and later lead to health hazards. But when it comes to Breastfeeding, you needn’t clean your nipples each time. Cause if you do, you are wiping away the lubrication that’s is being provided by the oils from the glands.

5. Eat bland food when you’re breastfeeding


Eat anything in moderation that won’t affect the baby. The food that you eat is fully digested and then utilised to produce breastmilk. Hence the food is broken down before breastmilk preparation. So you can eat anything, but in moderation.

6. Breastfed babies tend to be clingy and dependent


Studies have proved that breastfed babies have grown up to be more independent. Quite often when women say they are breastfeeding post age one, the immediate comments they get is you are making your baby much clingy. The kids will be dependent on you. Breastfed babies actually tend to be more independent and capable of being more stronger .

7. You can’t get pregnant when you’re breastfeeding.


We’ve been told ovulation doesn’t occur when you breastfeed, but you can’t trust that to be birth control method. It is true that Breastfeeding can help in relating period and so ovulation doesn’t occur. But it is not always a trusted method of birth control. So it is always advisable to consult your doctor for a suitable birth control method.

8. Do not nurse when you have blocked duct or infection.

Nursing often doesn’t lead to blocking. Nursing during duct actually clears it up. Blocked duct most often can be cleared if you feed after got or cold compress. But inorder to avoid duct formation its always adviced to feed frequently.

9. Drink milk to make your milk.



Even if you do not drink milk your supply won’t be affected. Drinking milk is not the only way to produce breastmilk. Intact no food is said to boost supply, each woman has the won ability to produce breastmilk for their baby. Whether or not they drink milk, their breasts would be producing breastmilk.

10. If your breasts don’t grow when you’re pregnant you cannot make enough milk.

Generally breasts go up by one or two cup sizes for most women when they’re pregnant. But that does not decide if you produce more or less breastmilk. Whether they grow or no your breasts will be making milk.

So ditch the myths and continue breastfeeding. That’s what our babies needs.

If we have myths busted for Breastfeeding why not parenting myths debunked. Read on to know more.

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